I'll admit, after getting married for the first time at 45 I am happy I get to sign my emergency contact as my husband rather than my mother. And it is a terrible cycle where the men I dated would've rather I'd been divorced than have never been married. It all fed into my feelings about myself until one day it just stopped. Swear to God I met my husband not long after that - a widower who didn't give a shit whether I'd been married before or not. The key for me was letting go of the fantasy, though not everyone is able to do that. If this woman did anything "wrong" I think it was baring her soul in public like this. There's no way to take that back.